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| DOMINANT VS MASTER A Dominant is a person with a dominant aspect in their personality. They are not the same. It can be fairly said that all Master/Mistress's are Dominant. It cannot be said that all Dominant's have earned the title Master/Mistress. The Dominant person will range from lightly, moderately and heavily dominant. They may desire to engage in a relationship which is infrequent and strictly limited by rules, boundaries, and limitations. These light Dominant's will generally have a very limited desire to have a significant D/s relationship, this is sometimes due to conflicting life events and other times due to being 'barley dominant. A Master is a Dominant with significant real life BDSM experience. There is a second group of light Dominant's or persona's with a desire to control without the adequate understanding or tools to do so. Their range or sphere (their world) is small, they can be poorly educated, relatively low paying jobs, somewhat narrow minded and may be subject to 'dominant bursts', or short term barely or uncontrolled violent outbursts. These low level Dominant's are often abusive and were generally bully's or victims of abuse as children. They may be full of justifications for their 'actions' often assigning 'blame' or directing by means of fear, intimidation or threat of pain. They are often without honor, courage, and veracity as individual's and when encountered in the BDSM world should be avoided or not sought out to be in a relationship with. The moderate Dominant is the most common Dominant and will characteristically be interested in a 'relationship', though often they may not desire a full time relationship when they are fairly new to the community. They tend to have a broader range and more committed style then the light Dominant and the submissive will find them to be more stable. They will tend to be decently educated, interested in their outer world, midrange job. They may tend to control through a blending thought and the accentuating of traditional type disciplines. They are most likely to have 'sides', wishing and desiring their submissive to 'share' in decision making choices. The heavy Dominant can be distinguished primarily by a clear, strong, and compelling desire to live in a 24/7 relationship with one submissive. This Dominant will generally have been in the community for a long time or be seasoned, will have explored the 'abundance' of many D/s events, meetings, scenes, and partners. They can be more tolarent and more strict then any other Dominant. A high percentage of heavy Dominant's will have spent some portion of their BDSM life as a submissive, learning from the inside. These Dominant's often allow few limits and believe that their submissive must trust in them to direct them in a safe, sane manner. They are generally well rounded and quite stable. Holding to simple, firm rules with a strong desire to maintain the health and well-being of their chosen mate. Additionally you have those who go by the name of Top. This person is generally an individual who enjoys scening from the Top position. S/he may or may not have a strong dominant aspect. Many Top's will openly indicate that they do not consider themselves to be a Dominant, they generally have little desire to be in a controlling position of another person's life. Many see themselves in a dual roles and may identify themselves as switches, or having the ability to switch from Top to bottom role. A Sadist may or may not be a Dominant, in much the same way as a Top. Often a true Sadist will openly identify themselves as a Sadist. They scene because the inflicting of pain upon another being brings them pleasure. In many cases the Sadist has no desire to live in a controlling position over another person. Also the true Sadist is very attuned to 'scene limits', they can and may be a stickler for precise identification of what is permissible and what is not. In general terms they are not oriented towards 'serving the pleasure' of the person they scene with though often they are very skilled, very intelligent, and very careful. A Dominant may be sadistic and will often have a strong sadistic side which allows them the ability or range to interact with the submissive in an intense sensory stimulation way. A multiple partner Dominant can be any of those above mentioned. The individual's stability can best be judged by the duration of those poly-relationships. Also there are those that take on or desire to take on 'stables' of submissives. In most cases this is a fantasy wish fulfillment type of ego stroking. Functionally, the more people with in a relationship the harder it is to manage. It is quite difficult to manage a single relationship well, every division of time, energy, and focus reduces the overall quality to everyone. |
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